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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m torn between pushing with tough love because she is young and maybe she will thank me later vs considering that maybe it is just too much for her, to let her make her own choices, and to prioritize her wellbeing.  Frustrating because I know the latter will close some doors for her and [b]she is better than this[/b].  What do you think DCUM and has anyone btdt? [/quote]

I think we need to spend some time getting OP to see how completely gross this attitude is.

NO. Where you get into college does not make someone better or worse than someone else at a different college.

As for your later comment that you are sure we all want our kids to get into good colleges: I wanted my kids to get into great colleges, and they did. But not one of them ended up at the most selective of the schools they got into, and you know what? I was a little bummed about that decision in some cases, and I also recognized that as my issue and effing shut up about it around the kid who was picking.

And they all ended up at the right places for them, even if their choices didn't impress people as much as other options would have.

[b]Do you want to be the one making your kid miserable? You have that power. [[/b]/quote]

I definitely don’t, which is why I can seeking other perspectives.  As for my “better than this” comment, I meant better than regular classes when she is recommended to advanced classes for a reason. She is very smart, but maybe lazy? Or hyper-focused on social things? I don’t know. 
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