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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had a FTL uncle.  His siblings and their spouses were super pissed being saddled with him asking for money all the time after their dad died.  They stopped giving money and his health deteriorated pretty quickly without proper health care and nutrition.  My sister, his niece, went to visit and found him emaciated.  She started getting him signed up for services, which he qualified for, but his own parents and siblings never did that which really surprises me in retrospect.  He really wasn’t capable of figuring out how to do that in his own.

I would urge OP and others to seek diagnoses and services the FTL people probably qualify for as early as possible.  Don’t let them starve and don’t let them freeload if they qualify for government assistance.  [/quote]

Part of the problem is that their parents did not want to deal with the stigma of mental illness, learning disabilities and developmental disabilities. The buck gets passed to the siblings. [/quote]

In my sibling's family, it's the oldest child with austism. The other three kids also have tremendous need and I suspect are on the spectrum, but the parents created this dynamic where it's just this one kids' needs versus everyone else, and everyone must center this one kid.  So noone got the help they needed, not even the one that they cater to because it's more for their identity than anything else. It's like tehy couldn't cognitively handle other kids with needs.  One has very severe ADHD, and my sibling is like "ADHD can be managed, it's not the autism".  I 'm like "YES BUT YOU HAVE TO MANAGE IT!" Not just sit there . [/quote]

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