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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every woman who opened her legs for me on the first date ended up being a mutual on demand hookup. If I like a woman I won't sleep with her on the first date cause I don't want to blow up my chances at a potential relationship. I don't know what happened to women now though so many are ready to hook up by the second date. They are sadly promiscuous just like men.[/quote]

Not all women are like that: to me it’s couple months. If he’s only a sexual draw/no personality match  or only a good person/no sexual attraction I don’t see them after 3 dates.  But if all elements for a relationship seem present, I try to see him for 5-6 dates (about a month), ask about recent std testing, if he plans to sleep with others in parallel etc. I also don’t understand why can’t people just use toys to address the physical itch. It’s not just STDs but new partner often brings really painful UTIs for women. Things shake up during sex and I need to adjust physically to him. Would be too much trouble for a casual one off ONS. [b]But that’s me - maybe other women are not as intimately sensitive to carousel of partners [/b][/quote]

You're replying to a man who confessed to sleep with women on the first date if he didn't see potential, why only women get criticized for this behavior?[/quote]

I'm not criticizing them, just saying it amazes me how some women can do this physically. Sounds like way more trouble to women to engage in ONS (pregnancy risks, higher risks of catching stds vs men, risk of criminal behaviors etc). Maybe people assume these women are overall less stable and are risk seekers which is not a good relationship material? [/quote]

Exactly my point, does it amaze you when men sleep or try to sleep with women on a first date? Men do catch STDs and get set up for robberies that way after all. Do you also think people are justify in seeing these men as less stable and not relationship material?[/quote]

Men  usually have financial and physical power to protect themselves,  have lower chances of catching an STD which enables them to behave with fewer restraint. Women should really look out for themselves in this OLD reality. 
But yes I do not consider a man who routinely engages in ONS and brags about it a good relationship material for me, personally. Simply because he treats sex as something totally recreational and emotionless, we won't be a match. I would think if he marries me, he would sleep around without any qualms, if I get sick or travel[/quote]

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