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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He’s putting too much on you. Tell him you will have to go part time if he doesn’t do x , y, and z and he specific. [/quote]
He's not putting too much on her. His job is a more-than-40-hours a week job, and so he physically cannot be there for mornings and the immediate after school tasks.  [b]That's not dumping stuff on her. That's just the realities of a job that is paying 2/3 of their household costs.  
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If she finds doing the morning and after-aftercare routine by herself is too hard, she needs to outsource some of it. That's an easy solution.  [/quote]

But shes doing more than 2/3 of childcare and household responsibilities so hes still getting the easy side. [/quote]

If he's working 2 more hours a day AND comes home and jumps right in on childcare, then I'd say they are splitting pretty evenly.  OP didn't say he was one of those layabout dads who just sits around the house while she does everything.  She said he comes home later than her, and then they split the putting to bed work.

Assuming his job does in fact require those hours (which OP isn't disputing; in fact, she suggested he get a different easier job), then I'd argue HE is contributing more than OP, because they are both "working" the same number of hours per day (when you take into account job-hours and childcare/house-hours), only he is making almost double her salary.  His side of the story is probably that he wishes OP made more money.  $100k is starting salaries out of college these days. [/quote]

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