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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Mine. She turned 21 yesterday. It kind of kills me. She is living with her boyfriend and his father. She had a nervous breakdown in high school and I think she's associated learning with all her mental illness issues. She couldn't complete HS and it took her three years to work up to taking her GED, which she passed on the first try. She works at a smoothie shop - I can't get a clear answer how many hours a week it is. She claims she doesn't want to go to college because she doesn't know what she wants to do and so it would be a waste.

She says she wants to work with her hands - I told her fine, go become a plumber or an electrician. No. She doesn't want to have to talk to people. I told her fine, go become a dishwasher in a restaurant. No, she doesn't want to work in the food service industry. Fine, go be a hotel maid and work in hospitality. No, she doesn't want to have to wear a uniform. Fine, go become a car mechanic at a big place, where someone else deals with the customers and you just work on the cars. No, that doesn't appeal to her. And on and on.

Every so often she'll ask me how to become some random profession. I think I want to be a writer - how did Elizabeth become an online editor? She went to school and double majored in English and journalism.

I just don't know how to help this kid. Who is now an adult. [/quote]
Beauty industry is the answer. Massage therapy, nail tech, hairdresser, etc. You work with your hands and set your own hours. [/quote]

I tried that - she doesn't want to have to deal with people/touch them. :( [/quote]
It sounds like she may first need to have her mental health addressed better before she can delve into possible careers.  It sounds like she's still struggling with a lot of amxiety post breakdown[/quote]
Scarily, this is her after she's HAD a ton of therapy. She's going to need to do the rest on her own. I can't reach her. Literally - I don't know the address where she's living and when I've asked she's skirted answering, and we'll make plans to talk and then she won't follow through. I can only either cut her off completely or be there when she comes around every 1-3 months. I choose the latter. [/quote]
COVID was very damaging to a lot of young people.  There were multiple failures from the federal government level to the school systems, all the way down.  It will take a generation to work through it.  [/quote]

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