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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I dunno, this seems like much ado about nothing.  How often does SIL come to visit?[/quote]

At least 6-8x/yr, sometimes more. She flies in from Boston and sometimes takes the train. But she doesn’t have much else going on so she’s here a lot. [/quote]

So when she travels to you all these times she gets around in a taxi? This sounds a little farfetched.[/quote]

No. My husband usually picks her up. This particular day her plane was early so she took a taxi straight to the school.

Anything else?[/quote]

This sounds like another culture clash. What culture are you and your husband? [/quote]

Husband is white. I am Japanese. [/quote]

OP--I'm on your side 1000%. I offered advice on the first page about how to speak directly to her. AND I will gently offer that  your communication may not have been as clear as you intended. My SIL is Japanese and married to my white brother. We've had minor disagreements over the years because of communication clashes. Japanese communication can come off as indirect to the American listener when that was not the intention.

I would suggest enlisting your husband's help with setting some clear boundaries. Present as a united front about what's okay and not okay. No one needs to overexplain or qualify or apologize. Just state in the simplest terms what is okay with you.

Good luck.[/quote]

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