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[quote=Anonymous]Those of you who don't perceive the connection between b'day lunch, eviction and being a rude dinner guest are seriously dim.
What ties all of these things together is the underlying dysfunctional dynamic whereby OP's husband and their mom feel the need to accommodate his sister's entitlement even though doing so crosses healthy boundaries that have the potential to put his well-being, his mom's and his spouse's at risk. I've no doubt that OP's husband was raised to feel responsible for his sister which is why he is unwilling and/or unable to perceive the dynamic for what it is, although it sounds as though the relative who cut off his branch of the family very reasonably made the healthy choice not to be entangled in this dysfunction. But the fact that this paradigm has been established is not a reason to perpetuate it, and if I were the OP, I'd be having a conversation with my spouse about the implications for our lives and the possibility that we won't be spending the rest of them together if this pattern isn't broken.

Also, a newsflash for all of those whose sympathies are with the sister: mental health issues aren't an excuse for being an entitled parasite.

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