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[quote=Anonymous]OP I only read two pages of replies but there were enough like mine is about to be that I don't feel the need to read more.

You NEED TO LEAVE THIS BEAST!

You are messing up your children by failing to protect them from this kind of terrifying abuse. And it IS TERRIFYING to young children and babies to hear constant screaming and yelling and rage from a primary caregiver, and to feel the anxiety and despair of their mother.

I know, because I grew up the same way, and my weak minded mother found every excuse not to leave - mostly because she wanted the shekels the beast brought home, she wanted the extra luxuries his wages could buy her.

You need to understand that if you have a son, you are likely raising an abuser who will carry his father's rageful abuse and inflict it on your grandchildren.

You need to understand that if you have a daughter, you are likely raising a woman who will either allow herself to be exploited and abused as you are being, or who will never trust a man not to abuse her and so will avoid marriage and motherhood altogether as I did, so as not to EVER be in the trap you are choosing for you and your kids.

When I was just a tiny little child, 3 and 4 and 5 years old, I used to cry myself to sleep listening to my father raging at my mother. I used to dream of how I would rescue her as soon as I was big enough. I used to pray that she would pack us up and move us into a tiny little crappy apartment where we could be free of his rage - where we wouldn't have to live walking on eggshells and wondering when the next explosion of rage would come. And where maybe my brother would stop emulating our 'father' and screaming and yelling at me the way our 'father' screamed and yelled at our mother. (And yes, he is now a full blown abuser of his wife and kids.)

And you need to know OP, that the day will likely come when your kids hate you as much or more as they hate your husband - because you KNEW BETTER, and you chose money over their one chance for a decent childhood.

Open your eyes OP - look at the way 7 billion people on this planet live - many of them raising loved and nurtured kids, even in the slums. You have a privileged life and NO EXCUSE for failing to protect your kids. Start making a real plan NOW to get out, ASAP![/quote]

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