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You're way out of line, OP. If they're not ready to confirm a date, it means you might be out thousands if the date changes, unless you purchase a refundable/movable ticket.

Also, a wedding is a complex event to organize. Your niece has a million things to think about, and as a general rule, brides aren't thinking of one aunt's financial situation and how many times she's flown to visit. If she thinks of you at all, it's perhaps in the opposite way - that you seem so wealthy that travel for you will pose no problem. How is she supposed to read your mind? How is your sister supposed to read your mind? How can anyone accommodate you if you don't explain?

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I said that exactly, hey looking to see if the dates are solid because the flight prices are good. [/quote]

No. You did not explain that you've been tightening your belt and making sacrifices to visit them regularly for years, and that buying tickets to this wedding closer to the date would be a financial burden. Because this is how you've described it to us: that it's a long-festering resentment that your family has not reciprocated your attentions for a long while, and you feel as if you're always the one spending the money and making the effort, so now it's the last straw.

And I'll guess why.[b] It's because it's not a real financial burden, you just like to bean count.[/b]
If you have a fit now, you'll be seen as the aunt who likes to draw attention to herself when it's the bride's time to shine.

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+1. Boom[/quote]

There isn't any bean counting, in fact there is nothing to count at all. We're not talking my sibling has visited fewer times. My sibling has never visited not even for my wedding, never. No beans to count and I fully accept that about our relationship. Doesn't mean it doesn't sting that my sibling cares that little for me.

Going to my niece's wedding and not spending an arm and a leg isn't an unreasonable ask. It feels punitive, like, hey I get that you'd like to book airfare, but I want to make sure you pay as much as possible for it and just not answer your question.[/quote]

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