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[quote=Anonymous]I had what would be considered a rather prestigious finance job and quit to stay at home and be with my kids, close to 20 years ago.  Here is my take.

Finances:  I was sort of in a unicorn situation where I had family money and would have been fine if we got divorced, DH also had plenty of savings/family money, enough for us to be comfortable even if something happened to him.  Me brining in my income (which was significant) wouldn't have made a significant difference in our lives.  I could've also gone back to work if after a year or two I regretted the decision.

Personal:  I was well educated, great at my job, and loved it.  However, I would've rarely seen my baby if I'd kept working.  Working remotely or part time was not an option.  Times were different, this was in the early 2000s.  I think if I'd been a few years younger, I would've gone this route.  I worried about not feeling fulfilled, honestly, I didn't love all the aspects of taking care of small children.  However, it was not all about me.  I was doing what I felt was best for my family.  We did not have any family around to help. AT. ALL.  This was big and I think people underestimate how helpful it is to have someone who is around, even just once or twice a year, or in true emergencies.  DH's job was very demanding and he wasn't around either.  For posters that say DH pitched in cooking dinner every night, did laundry on weekends, etc., not everyone's job affords these options.  I could hire whatever help I wanted to help me, and basically had a blank check.  Many people bad or mediocre, some were good, and a few were excellent.  It was really hard to find the excellent ones who were available all the hours I would've needed to have kept working myself.  
Also, it turned out my kids had some learning disabilities and other challenges.  That can completely change the situation too.[/quote]

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