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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is no way this is a real post.  I refuse to believe someone could write the things OP has and fail to realize how she comes off.

And I'm not saying that her husband definitely has to go to bat for his nephew - there's a lot that goes into that.  But OP's attitude and description - holy smokes.[/quote]

I agree with OP, not sure why people are so tribal about their families. OP is delicately stating that the nephew is not that bright or capable. You can't make a round peg fit into a square hole. [b]OP is demonstrating great ethics by stating that DESERVING youngsters, regardless of whether there's a family link or not, earn recommendations and help. 
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Isn't that how it should be?!? I think OP has her head screwed on the right way, unlike some of you posters.

And I say this as the parent of one neurotypical child and one child with issues. I do not want anyone sticking their neck out for my beloved "aimless" son. I want people to help him get a job that he can be successful in. BIG difference!!!

Come on, people. Be reasonable.[/quote]

The problem is with the bolded.  It is either all about merit, or it isn't.  "Deserving" kids may get the job based on merit, but they don't "deserve" more help than anyone else.  If you are willing to help family friends, you should be willing to help family.

And let's be real...nobody is asking for straight up nepotism and getting the kid a job he truly can't hack.  They are asking for some help and connections, most likely.  And DH should provide it.  It also appears, though we can't be sure, that OP is not making real distinctions about merit here.  She said that nephew "isn't lighting the world on fire" and that family friends are "very charming and highly ambitious."[/quote]

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