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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You describe her in your initial post as successful, independent, but then later on describe her as attached by the hip to your parents with no life of her own. So that’s confusing.

I’m having trouble understanding how this concrete affects your life in a negative way. Attendance at a swim meet wouldn’t bother me.

How do your kids feel about her? [/quote]

They used to be enthusiastic about seeing her but now she’s a fixture to them they're so used to they say hi to and then disappear into their rooms to do homework or call friends.

She’s successful in that she has a lot of resources but our parents step in with her too much and she welcomes it. Sometimes, I see it like this—imagine someone who has plenty of job offers that would pay enough to afford a great apartment but opts to stay in mom and dad’s basement because it’s so cozy and mom and dad just adore the company. [/quote]

I think there is a lot to be said for intergenerational living. My parents are visiting us now for a whole month and I wish I could keep them here forever, honestly. Are you threatened by how close your sister is with your parents?[/quote]

What’s stopping you from ‘keeping them forever’ then? Try it out and report back to us if it’s so easy. 
 I love the advice people give when they have no clue how difficult it is to have someone like this in their lives. My sibling lives with my parents and expects my family to drop everything to cater to their whims. It’s very difficult. Op is not the only one dealing with a situation like this. [/quote]

OP didn't say anything about the sister wanting everyone to drop everything to cater to her whims. She seems angry that OP's sister has prioritized her nuclear family over building a family of her own. She's upset that the sister likes coming to visit and going to swim meets - and that she shares a home with their parents. Even though I can't see how that affects OP except that she's really snooty about it?
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