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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here-you know what. you're right. I prefer my DD be straight. If that makes me homophobic  then I guess I am. I am 60. maybe it's generational. [/quote]

Cool, now you're getting somewhere. You can prefer whatever you want, but it's her life. There's no point in hoping for it to be different than it is. Love the kid you have. Think a LOT less about her friends, significant other, even her, than you currently do. Just let her be. When you're together, do fun stuff. If she wants to talk, listen. Don't pry. Let the future take care of itself...and don't do stuff that will make her not want to be around you, or make her not want to be herself around you.

My parents are about your age, but I'm older than your daughter. They were like you. It drove a wedge between us that still exists--I know that even though they really like my wife, they would have chosen differently for me. They were a little too involved in other areas of my life too. Not I am pretty guarded about what I share with them. I just keep it surface-level. They're nice people, but they aren't the people I'd reach out to in an emergency or to share my inner thoughts. So, while it may seem paradoxical, pull back so your daughter will want to remain close. [/quote]

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