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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here’s what I would do.
When she is home for a break, take her to a nice hair salon to see a great hair person; pay for a makeup session or two and buy her makeup. Pay for a personal stylist to take her shopping. 
Maybe a cosmetologist.
She will look better, extend her social circle and attract more guys. Once a guy she really likes makes her an offer so to speak - she may drop that gf like a hot potato.
Also have her bring the gf for a visit and be super welcoming but observe. Is the gf clingy? Is she pressuring your DD into a relationship? She may be indoctrinating her with “all men are pigs” mentality or some such. 
Also is your DD open to seeing a counselor/therapist about building relationships at college? [/quote]

Are… you ok?

OP, in the simplest way I can say it: let go. Listen, advise only when asked, and don’t say anything negative about the gf. You will only push DD away.

Your daughter is gay or bi. Several of your responses indicate a tolerance but not acceptance for that. Think about what this will mean for your relationship with your daughter in the future. It’s easy to see that you love your daughter and want the best for her. It’s difficult to step back as they grow up, but it’s time. To maintain a close, loving relationship you will have to surrender control  (and I know you want to protect he), and possibly re-examine your feelings about her sexuality. People often say “get therapy” here as an insult, as if you’re defective. I encouraged you to go to therapy not because there is something “wrong” with you, but to refocus your devotion to DD in a way that is better for both of you.[/quote]

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