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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I suggest therapy. This type of thinking isn’t making you feel good and you might benefit from counseling to overcome it.

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I will add this as gently as I can. Your kids may not want children due how they were parented.

I had a mentally ill mother and she was mostly terrible. For years, I had no desire for kids because I didn’t want to pass on the trauma and illness.

Only after many years did I have children and only after I had kids did my older sister start to have kids.

So you might start by examining yourself. [/quote]

Same. It wouldn't surprise me if OP was like my mom.  If I hadn't done a lot of therapy in my early 20s, I never would have had kids.  On the outside my mom was a perfect SAHM. In our house, she was controlling, manipulative, and verbally abusive at times. [/quote]

I’d love me some examples of what snowflake Wash DC DCUM calls verbally abusive parenting “at times.”

My bet is they don’t want kids because they know THEY are the failures. They love their screen time and social media too much, their eating out, their vacations. And don’t want whiny kids asking for stuff. And they know they don’t have the attention span to parent or discipline themselves on screens so never will for a kid. [/quote]
Ugh you really make parenthood sound amazing! 
I'll take eating out and vacations instead of "whiny kids asking for stuff" for 1,000 please! 
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