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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe we can fix that cheater lady up with OP's cheater date.  They sound perfect for one another.  I'm sure their marriage will have the expected 75% divorce rate for people like them.  Let's bet on which one of them cheats first after the new relationship energy wears off...

Amy Robach and TJ Homes were made for one another--serial cheaters with multiple divorces and confessed to excess drinking/troubles with alcohol and already trouble in paradise after wrecking yet another marriage with kids...and their faithful exes are now dating.  [/quote]

My point exactly from the previous page. If you've cheated, please find someone else who has as well.[/quote]

Not to mention she never confessed. She dragged this guy to marriage therapy and was never honest in. The huge elephant in the room that she was having an affair never even was brought up.  That’s about as conniving, manipulating and disgusting as it gets—-[b]letting her husband attend therapy under completely false pretense[/b].  She knows if she confessed it would make her pay out/settlement more contentious.  Much better to let him think it’s his fault. What an evil beatch.[/quote]

Yeah, the bold caught my attention too. She was doing therapy in bad faith.

I wonder if she was so adept at compartmentalizing, keeping her affair walled off from the rest of her life, that she genuinely thought there was simply no reason to mention it as a symptom (or cause) as they dissected their marriage in counseling.

And I suspect she might have told herself she didn't want to hurt her husband by telling him. But instead she stripped him of true agency over [i]his own life[/i] and choices. That's one awful aspect of the whole "Spouse doesn't need to know" thinking re: every affair. The spouse may not feel the pain, but at the same time, the spouse also is living every day without without ALL the relevant information when planning for the future--the future of the marriage, the kids' futures, the spouse's hopes. The DH deserved the opportunity to have all the information so he could make choices about the marriage, his wife and the future based on reality.[/quote]

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