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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As the parent of a college athlete, you can’t push a child to that level. I have multiple kids. Only one had the drive to play college. I could not have forced it if I’d tried. That has to come from within. [/quote]

100% this! The kids who succeed at a high level in sports are self driven. 100%. You push, they will quit eventually. And the kids who are pushed academically, well, that sometimes ends very, very badly. [/quote]

I think what you’re saying is true but overstated.  Yes to reach the highest levels (at anything) you have to be internally driven.  But that only goes so far

if you provide opportunity and guidance to a kid (particularly before highschool) you can make it easier for him to pursue achievement. Success often produces the enthusiasm to strive harder  which in turn produces more success and a virtuous cycle is born.

The desire to become a great baseball player is not endowed at birth - it’s the result of your experiences combined with your personality. It may be that  kid on a rec team knows that he’s Playing  second tier ball (or at least feels that way) and  become discouraged or it may be a kid on a rec team is so successful he doesn’t feel the need to try harder.

Self motivation mainly stems from a combination of success, challenge and a internal need to compete.   So while self motivation is internal, how you get to that point is not. [/quote]

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