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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a guy and my kids are now 5 and 7.  When they were born all of my energy went towards getting up a ton of times at night, soothing them when they were crying, diapers, etc.  As they got older my energy towards other things like helping them walk, reading/playing with them, making them food all the time, mounds of laundry.  Even now that their sleeping is under control I still spend a ton of time preparing meals, doing laundry, showers and referring near constant battles between them.

Maybe this changes when they are older but at this phase it just seems like 100% of my effort (and hers too) goes towards the kids.  And honestly I wouldn't even say we are super parents or anything like that, there's just a lot of work with the kids.  I guess I don't have much in the way of emotions because there's no time for all that and I'm really too tired from the day to day for that to be an issue.[/quote]

Sometimes, it takes small statements: " Babe, I was watching you struggle with X, and I really wanted to help, but I was busy doing Y.  I wis I had more time and energy to make things easier for you".

I tell my husband that most of the time, emotional support is just communicating thoughts. It dies not take long if you were actually thinking it. Lol[/quote]

PP here and I guess I never considered that emotional support.  I offer to take the kids or do whatever to give her some time to herself but I consider that just being a decent partner/teammate.  If she wants to see her friends or whatever then sure I've got the kids.

I was thinking of emotional support as something deeper than that...kinda like what we provide to the kids when we talk to them about a bad day or something that didn't go their way and help them work through it.[/quote]

Not really. At least not in my circle. Most women have friends they can talk to about a bad day.  It's communication/ thoughts that are harder to outsource.

For example, I have a friend who cooks a lot on the weekends for the entire family while her DH reads for leisure. She has no problem with him relaxing while she cooks but she wants him reading at the kitchen table to keep her company. Simple things like that. Her DH got it after a few mentions. 
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