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And then when I’m gone, bad things happen. I’ll come back to multiple injuries, unwiped butts, glass on the floor, and the kids will not have eaten anything and the needs will be overwhelming the instant I come back. DH and my dad will be freshly showered and chilling on the couch. It’s truly astonishing. And I’m the ahole when I object.[/quote]

I think it's worth unpacking this a bit - like, what is your husband's bottom line perspective about this? That the injuries and dirty butts and glass on the floor and hungry kids are not a problem? That they will resolve themselves? That he's following your dad's lead, so everything is fine? I'd just try to dig into.... who does he think will solve these problems? Does he agree that they are problems? If not, why? Is he open to a parenting class that you could take together? This is obviously way bigger than a vacation issue.
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Op here. It’s hard for me to really know what the issue is, because again, the dynamic is that if I SAY ANYTHING WHATSOEVER it is received as if I’m a shrew. DH becomes shut down and disassociated very quickly when confronted, even if I use a neutral tone.

But the general reaction would immediately be that I am overreacting and that everything is fine and that they were totally going to get to the shattered glass/feces/mealtime. The problem is me raising the problem, not the problem itself.[/quote]

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