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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For all who say, "Move near family". What if the family decides to move after the elderly parents moved near you? Will you give consideration to your parents who moved to be near you?

I ask because if I were to move where my kids are, what if they decide to move later?  My spouse and I have siblings who moved all over the world.

This is the fear I have about moving near to my kids one day.

Also, elderly people make moves based on finances.

NoVA area is not cheap. Maybe your ILs made their decision based on low taxes?[/quote]

This has to be a discussion with your family. [b]Most people I know don't move out of a region once they have kids, but there are exceptions. [/b]

I think the families that pool resources into a multi generation house or buy neighboring houses are really smart, but it's hard for a lot of people to share in that way. There was a window when we were looking to step up from a townhouse and I asked my parents if they wanted to do something like that. They didn't, and now for various reasons (finances, interest rates, age of kids) that window is closed. [/quote]

Many people I know have moved after having kids. This is a valid concern, pp. I even know of one situation where a DH’s widowed elderly mom moved to be near the DH and his wife and 3 kids. The DH and wife and kids then moved 3 years later for a job opportunity, leaving elderly widowed mom in a city she knew no one. She didn’t want to move again though she’s very sad her son’s family left. They have a good relationship so it’s not like the son moved to get away from his mom and he said he felt really bad about it. But sometimes things happen and you need to move unexpectedly.[/quote]

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