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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If this were my kid i would back far away from this club and possibly even travel soccer as a whole. Youve made him believe his identity is tied up in being on the best team and nothing else matters. "Best team" is highly subjective and he is 9, so this attitude is very misguided. Honestly maybe bail, join a rec team for the spring and also add in another sport to remind him that its meant to be fun. Try something he hasnt done before so that he isnt the best and learns to enjoy it and grow. Flag football, basketball, swim, golf, lacrosse, whatever. Try out for another soccer club for the next year, with renewed passion.[/quote]

A good soccer player should go play another sport he's not good at to boost his confidence and self-esteem? [/quote]

Im PP and I wasnt saying to boost confidence or self esteem, I was saying to gain perspective. And to get back to a place where sports are fun and not all consuming and to not have your identity wrapped up in one thing. No matter how good of a soccer player he is, he is 9. And clearly is taking this way to intensely.[/quote]

All top players and exceptional players take it relatively intensely.

The average and mediocre do not.[/quote]

Nothing says “top, exceptional player” like being on the B team.

Look. My kid who loves soccer got cut from the B team and plays rec. He takes it very seriously, practices in the back yard, watches old soccer matches on the iPad when he’s given screen time, wears the jerseys of his favorite players to school. But that doesn’t make him an exceptional player. It makes him a normal 9 year old kid who loves soccer and, while he was devestated not to make our local travel team, he enjoyed his rec season. He is 9. So is your kid. Neither of our kids are going to be pro soccer players.  But hopefully your kid can gain some perspective about the situation the way my kid eventually did. The end. [/quote]

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