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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi, OP again.
No, he was not prescribed TRT.

I have been looking up therapists, but not sure how I am going to convince him he should leave his current one. Remember he doesn’t have an issue with the current one.

I do worry that suggesting he change will cause rock the boat too much. We’ve reached this level of relative calm and day to day things are functioning smoothly. What if it’s because he feels safe and supported and all of a sudden I tell him he should see someone else because I need more? It might feel like I’m pulling the rug out from under him.
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Did the Viagra ever work or does he have nerve damage?[/quote]

OP addressed this in her original post.  She explained DH tried viagra specially, but it “felt weird.”  I am not sure what he meant exactly.

Anyway, some time has passed so I suggested, up post, maybe he try a different RX?  There are at least 2 major ones, and apparently now, certain pharmacists  even compound or mix them depending on need.  Point is: he could still try.

Apart from the “feeling weird” OP has not said that her husband’s issue is ED.  I am not sure why any of you just assume this surgery causes incurable ED in every case.  A few facts:

- while ED is a common temporary result, many patients can overcome it with viagra or similar medications;

- the nerves severed by surgery often grow back, but it can take up to 2 years;

- even where viagra does not overcome the ED, other therapies / devices (pump and ring) can allow an erection to happen, but only if the man is willing to try (and his partner is supportive).

What cannot physically happen is:  ejaculation (ie - no semen).  However, many men are still able to achieve a “dry orgasm” - again, if they are willing to try, and the wife is also willing to go along / be supportive of the effort.

But in OP’s DH case, psychology seems to be the very first issue needed to be overcome.

I read your earlier reply OP.  DH likes his therapist.  Would the therapist be open to having a joint session with you present, so you could express to the therapist you interest in trying again with DH?  [/quote]

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