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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She's 16, a teenager.  Teenagers want to set themselves apart from their parents. [b]She's not your friend [/b]and doesn't want to be your friend so it's normal behavior to reject matching PJ's (which anyway sounds ridiculous). Be glad she has a good connection with her father and his girlfriend. She will need you as a mother but not as a leisure buddy.[/quote]

It’s not that I’m trying to be her friend, I just want to spend quality time with her before she’s off to college and busy with her own life.[/quote]

I know. But her stepmom can actually be her friend because she's not your daughters parent.

This is hard, but you ARE mom and your daughter WILL come around. It might take a few years, but mom is absolutely irreplaceable and she'll come around again. Give it some time. [/quote]

She may come around, but she really might not. Did you read what the OP wrote? Daughter refused to wear matching Christmas pjs with mom because it was babyish, but posed in matching Christmas PJ photos with stepmom. That’s a huge BETRAYAL. It would be one thing if daughter said that she’d rather get a grownup-ish mani/pedi with stepmom than bake Christmas cookies with mom because that babyish. But here, daughter did what she thought was babyish and took photos of it. It’s not like matching Christmas pjs became less babyish to a 16 year old. I see something much more layered going on, that I suspect has to do with money, power and respect. I also suspect how much daughter will come around down the road will have more to do with how much money dad and stepmom are willing to share with her more than anything else. [/quote]

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