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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, my husbands and I were at large firms when we married, making a lot of money, paying off loans, and savings a ton.  Then he got sick and almost died.  He hasn't been able to work in years.  Guess what?  I wouldn't trade our lives for anything.  We have two kids, and he is my soul mate.  Yes, I would love more money, but that is not the most important thing.

Until you realize that the marriage vows "for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health" actually mean something, you are not mature enough to get married.  Everything can fall apart, and bad things do happen.  Figure out whether this person means enough to you to stick with him if it does.[/quote]

+100.  Best post on the thread.  [/quote]

+200 Marry the person you really can make that "better or worse" commitment to. Salary wouldn't really factor into it for me, as long as he's committed to a career. As a PP said, that could be a lower paying career like teaching and that's fine. Being lazy or unable to hold down a job are dealbreakers, not the specific salary.

FWIW, DH and I made about the same income when we married (NOT $250k level but about that combined considering inflation). Our income and work balance has had a lot of ups and downs over the years. He got laid off at one point, I spent a few years working PT when we had little kids. He shifted to an at-home job when the kids were in their early teens so someone would be home after school. Over time my income grew, he got pushed into retirement at 60 and now I'm the breadwinner as I plan to work another 5-7 years. It's all been fine.

If the combined income, when you already make plenty to support a comfortable life, is keeping you from committing, then he's probably not the right guy for you.[/quote]

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