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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would just stop making muffins and soup for you all.

And the next time you might ask me to watch my grandchild on a day when day care is closed, I might not see the text for hours and hours, or I might say, oh that’s not a good day, how about tomorrow?

I’ll just learn not to care about your hurt feelings. If you throw tantrums and complain about me to everyone, that will be YOUR problem. 
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Because it’s all about setting boundaries, right?
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Do you think this is some type of threat or lesson? No, sweetie, that’s the POINT. The point is we don’t want or need your muffins, which always come with a side of guilt and expectations. Stay away. What makes you think you are needed for aftercare? You’re not. And by the way, if you withhold from us during emergencies, guess what will happen when you fall in the shower? Want to start the tit for tat? You need us a hell of a lot more than we need you. Facts. [/quote]

We know, you don't need anything or anyone. You don't need your child's grandmother in a pinch for after care because you can pay people who don't love them to take care of that. You can always have muffins delivered. You don't need to meet or know your neighbors because you will never have to borrow a cup of sugar from them or god forbid ask for a favor (that would make you a user). You can hire a dog walker to take care of your dog etc etc etc etc etc etc.

Have fun with your dog walker who hates you, your after care at a sterile facility raising your children, your non-interaction with your Instacart delivery driver and your not so much as a nod hello neighbors. No one needs you either, PP. You are truly nuts to think the picture of yourself you paint is somehow attractive. It's not. It's the epitome of a lonely, pathetic, brittle person who has nothing that matters, like love and human connections, and all the superficial trappings that money can buy. Truly, truly pathetic.[/quote]

I get this. (I'm not a DIL or MIL). Everything is scheduled within an inch of its life. The kids can't just hang with grandma because they have to be driven to designated sports activity so they can get fresh air and interaction with other kids which they can't get from just playing with the kids on their street. There is no appreciation for random homemade goods being dropped off because you can just get anything delivered anyway so there's no novelty. Everyone is totally frazzled going through the evening ritual, which may include the perfunctory designated "family time" so they can all get to bed so that tomorrow, the parents can drive the kids to daycare and go work the big job that enables them to make enough money to never need grandma to watch the kids.

It's just all very sad. I didn't grow up that way.[/quote]

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