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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, your family is the normal and well adjusted family. Your kids know themselves and act accordingly. At that age, they don't need your approval. You've raised them well.

The other families (especially the adult children!) are doing some ingrained performative bullshit. Country Club families are full of this culture. It's weird!

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We used to vacation with a family where the kids would always unquestioningly do whatever they were told and my kids were always the “complainers.”  Turns out the dad was a total hardass behind closed doors and the kids cooperated so they wouldn’t piss him off. Needless to say we don’t vacation with them anymore.

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How hard ass do you have to be about showing up for a meal on a group vacation?

Don't think its being hard ass its being an adult with an opinion. If these kids were say 16 or under it would be expected but really.....why should they have to conform to the plans if they don't feel like going? None of us like feeling pigeonholed do we?

Just communicate ahead of time and do a mix of things. Dont agree and then sulk and mope and No Show like a prick. [/quote][/quote]

What’s this “feel like going” BS?

The time for that was when responding if you are attending or not. Or when the schedule was getting planned and discussed for the day or weekend.

Basic respectful and courteous: you do what you agreed to do.

Otherwise don’t agree and communicate that ahead of time to the group.

Then no one would be talking about this or OP wouldn’t be feeling bad. It’s truly that simple. Manners.

Communicate, and Be responsible for your decisions and behaviors. That’s adulting. [/quote]

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