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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think you're nuts.  They're 10 year old boys, and while the other kid's reaction is unfortunate, it's WAY outside of the norm. I'd feel similarly. [/quote]

I’m a teacher. I never would have communicated to you that your son was in any way responsible for a panic attack. My contact would have been about the push and that we don’t do that, even in jest.[/quote]

Op - this is what I said to my husband. Why tell me all this detail about the kid’s panic attack?
I myself get panic attacks in enclosed spaces so I have a huge amount of sympathy for the kid - but I don’t want ds to internalize that he is the entire cause of that [/quote]

Perhaps you have not been contacted about prior incidents in which your son (and others) pushed other kids in jest. Telling a 10 year old boy not to roughhouse often falls on deaf ears, so it wouldn’t be surprising if the behavior continued. And now you are being contacting with details of the consequences because they are hoping the circumstances will shut down the behavior once and for all. And perhaps they think other kids will fall in line once they hear about this.

When my kid was in 4th grade, a boy pushed his friend while they were walking down the street. The boy had been admonished numerous times for roughhousing and he had not stopped, on this particular day, as well as all fall/winter. His friend slipped on black ice and crashed headfirst into one of those green metal mesh trash cans. Concussion. The boy was suspended and eventually switched schools.

Would he not have been suspended if there hadn’t been a concussion? Maybe not. He might have gotten another warning. But consequences make schools move faster and come down harder. Both for the victim’s family and for themselves. Also, I am not saying this is your son’s case, but it in my son’s class, it wasn’t as simple as a spur of the moment push. It was a series of bad decisions by one kid to keep pushing and ignore others’ cues until someone got hurt. And that’s why he eventually left - he couldn’t control his body and mind in a class where kids were expected to be able to walk around downtown ny and be fairly responsible.

So you have to accept that there could be more to the story or that they are making an example of your son to make a statement. Either way, no pushing! [/quote]

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