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[quote=Anonymous]I have a kid with ADHD and who can be oppositional. I agree it’s hard but it’s important to establish that minimum behavior for involving others is that they stop when you say stop. I agree with the PP who gave the example of seeing a snake- you can have a discussion afterwards and explain your reasoning but they have to trust you that you have a good reason to listen. I grew up HATING having a parent who felt “because I said so” was an adequate explanation for rules, and it took me a while to understand I could demand my kids listen to me while also being clear about our system of beliefs and why I have the rules I have.

“First time listening” is like the whole goal of parent training, which I highly recommend for parents of kids like mine (and yours). Its more than the typical in the moment can consequences but a whole system of establishing that parents and adults need to be listened too. You can’t know ahead of time every situation your kid is going to be in. Sometimes they have to just listen.

FWIW I think there’s no one baseline for safety. My kid with ADHD is in constant motion and climbs everything but they are also extremely strong and fit and can do things safely that their friends can’t. I supervise more than most parents for this reason. It’s fine. I do think if your child can’t listen to stop they need a break from playdates for a while or very controlled like go to an activity play dates only. Good luck [/quote]

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