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Also, introvert does not necessarily equal social anxiety, just like not all extroverts feel the need to be front and center, they just love to socialize, [b]but are not necessarily spotlight hogs (though many seem)[/b].[/quote]

This is what I’m trying to explain to the introverts who are just like “[i]oh no it’s fine, I’m completely successful and don’t have anxiety[/i]”

I’m sure that’s true. But even though extrovert does not necessarily mean “attention hog” it does [b]still seem to be quite prevalent[/b].

And there is of course, a spectrum, and I think a lot of people are close to the middle. The knowledge that day after day you’re going to be drained because world was built for and run by extroverts, while you’re an introvert; doesn’t cause you to feel distressed/anxious/depressed? Cool, but that’s obviously not the case for a large amount of introverts—otherwise people wouldn’t conflate introvert with shyness and social anxiety.

If you’re so introverted that after riding the bus to school, attending multiple hours long classes with dozens of other students, going to lunch and being in the presence of hundreds of other kids, then attending more classes with dozens of other kids. After that, an introvert is drained—along with the school work itself draining them the environment itself also drained them. Oh and then when you finally get home you also get to do homework! Ah but society has dictated you must do extracurriculars to have a good portfolio for admissions. As AOs always point out admissions are holistic and not only based on grades and test scores! So then if you even still have any energy left you get to go do more socializing at some extra activity!

This is just one example of the bias in favor of extroverts. But it’s a big one and shows how from the start there’s a bias. Extroverts get their energy and recharge their batteries from all that socializing.

It would be like the equivalent of making your extroverted DC do school without the socializing aspect. Just go, sit there by yourself and do your work and read. Go to a club, do sports? No just sit at home and build a website. Go to a party with a big group of friends? Nope you can *maybe* have a quiet time at home with one friend.. on occasion.

Do you think your children would be mentally healthy? Or do you think they’d find everything so boring and a huge drag that it would zap their motivation and make them depressed? Of course they could choose to be more social but in the world I am describing the introverts are the ones who have an advantage and the world is biased to them. So the more your DC chooses to be extroverted the greater chance for negative outcomes in the long run educationally/professionally.

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