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[quote=Anonymous]We parented the kids we had. DC #1 was confident, motivated, knew what she wanted, needed very little other than rides to college visits. Had this been our only kid we easily could have convinced ourselves that hands-off was “better.”

DC #2 was different. Between covid, medical issues, social anxiety and a severe lack of confidence, this kid needed more help. We worked together on SAT prep, during which she discovered she could perform at much higher levels than she had previously believed. We hired an hourly college advisor to talk to her then suggest some good-fit schools, which helped boost confidence and get her past deer-in-headlights overwhelm. We read a couple of essay starts and told her which one felt least practiced and most authentically “her.”

None of it was about shoehorning the kid into some false admissions package. All of it was about helping this specific kid through a valuable process of self-discovery — one that I suspect will continue to be of benefit long after the process is over. The idea that you’re either hands-off or playing some tiger-parent UMC game, with the “prize” a sticker on a car, feels like a false choice. The college process can be so meaningful to a kid still discovering who they are and what they can do. [/quote]

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