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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Only did test prep and a very short amount.

No private counselor or essay coach.

We were very low key.

Student is straight A, very high test score and a good writer.  We did review his essays—grammar and a few suggestions.

That’s it.[/quote]

Same here.  This is the way it should be. [/quote]

Doubt you would feel the same if your kid was not a straight A student, great test taker and a good writer without your intervention. Or if the essays were terrible in your opinion when you first reviewed them. [/quote]

If your kid isn’t a good writer without your intervention, are you still going to be helping them in college and beyond?  Serious question. [/quote]

Not PP, but my answer is that no I would not help them in college and beyond.  But I absolutely would provide the help they needed while in school to get better at writing, whether that be more classes, more tutors, or more of my own intervention to review and help.

I'm interested in where the "their in HS, don't do anything to help them" crowd draw the line.  Is it freshman year?  Or are you throwing your hands up about a second grader learning to read and saying it is just up to them?  If you had a sixth grader who really wanted to be on the middle school soccer team, would you say no to signing them up with a coach or looking for the best team?[/quote]

I read that the “do it on your own” ethos is really built from trauma and unhealthy patterns adults experienced in their own childhood. “I did it on my own so you should too” etc.

It takes real work to push past that type of thinking, but plenty of families get stuck in it. It’s too bad because the world is so different and not as simple to navigate as it was in previous eras. [/quote]

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