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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This might make sense with an mlm, but in that field I wonder if your friend is reacting from insecurities[/quote]

Op here. It’s not an MLM. It’s in the tech/AI/cybersecurity space which is where DH, brother, and I all work. And we are spending no more than a few thousand dollars on it, and no one is quitting their job.[/quote]

Why do you care so much about your friend's opinion on this if it's just small potatoes?[/quote]

Op here. She did more than give her opinion. She went on a diatribe listing all the reasons why it won’t work and detailing everything she thinks I’m doing wrong.

I’m hurt by it. I’m not sure there needs to be some big deep reason. But I feel like I opened up about something that matters to me and shared with her and then she crapped all over it before I had even finished explaining barely anything about it.[/quote]

OP, you see and talk to her many times a week, I think I read.

She struck a nerve.  That is why you are blowing this up.    
She felt close enough to be brutally honest with you.  Many others likely do not.

Go into this knowing your $5k (and more as a last ditch attempt to keep it afloat) will likely disappear.  
If it takes off for all of you, awesome!   
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I hate when ppl say they are "just being honest" or "telling it like it is" as if their OPINION means they can be rude, negative and condescending. OP didn't ask her for an opinion and if I had a "friend" who wanted to just dump on me and criticize a project I'm pursuing out of "honesty" and no actual helpful advice and information then I'd reevaluate that friendship.

A lot of you get off thinking that being a true friend means ripping into said friend whenever you want out of the guise of "concern" and you're not fooling anyone. You're mean and insecure - and it shows.[/quote]

You must have friends who lie to your face to save face and their friendship with you.    You do you.
Being honest is not for everyone.  Or hearing honest opinions.    [/quote]

I don't need anyone to lie to me. Nor do I lie to my friends. What I'm not is negative, rude and condescending. If my friend ASKED for my advice, I'd give it:

No I don't really think that dress suits you, I like the yellow one better
That haircut doesn't bring out your best features, let's go through some pics for the next visit
Yes I think you were too harsh to your child, let's talk about different approaches

Instead of:

Damn that makes you look fat
What loser stylist did you hire because she didn't do you any favors
Why don't you know how to talk to your child - you really need to parent better

See the difference? Probably not - because again, a lot of ppl walk around thinking that cutting someone down in the name of "honesty" is okay - and it's simply NOT. You ever heard the phrase "when keeping it real goes wrong"? There is no justification for making someone feel small so you can be right or "honest". Pfft. Be a better friend and person.
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