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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This might make sense with an mlm, but in that field I wonder if your friend is reacting from insecurities[/quote]

Op here. It’s not an MLM. It’s in the tech/AI/cybersecurity space which is where DH, brother, and I all work. And we are spending no more than a few thousand dollars on it, and no one is quitting their job.[/quote]

Why do you care so much about your friend's opinion on this if it's just small potatoes?[/quote]

Op here. She did more than give her opinion. She went on a diatribe listing all the reasons why it won’t work and detailing everything she thinks I’m doing wrong.

I’m hurt by it. I’m not sure there needs to be some big deep reason. But I feel like I opened up about something that matters to me and shared with her and then she crapped all over it before I had even finished explaining barely anything about it.[/quote]

Is there any truth to what she says? Why would she be so passionate about this?[/quote]

Op here. I don’t know how to say this diplomatically but she is confident and opinionated.

She also once had a bad experience many years ago with a company that she thinks is doing the same thing my project/side hustle would be doing. They are not at all the same, but she didn’t listen long enough to even understand what I’m doing before she decided it was the same as this one company she had a bad experience with 5+ years ago. So she’s viewing it through that lens, and keeps wanting to talk about her bad experience from before.

She also claimed that I am “not truly passionate” about this project and that it “will never work unless my whole heart is in it”.

She had a bunch of other commentary and reasons why it will never work but a lot of her comments were centered on the two points above.

She listed all these things that we haven’t figured out (except, she doesn’t know what we are doing or whether we have figured them because she wasn’t listening to me). She claimed the idea is confusing to her and therefore can’t work (she doesn’t work in our industry and she’s not our target audience and didn’t take even 5 minutes to let me explain how it would work). [/quote]

That she is like this cannot come as a surprise, but you have invested a lot of time in the relationship. You can move on and not discuss the side hustle or do the fade, your choice, OP. You are still having a very emotional reaction, for your sake, I'd figure out why her well meaning but not especially relevant remarks got under your skin so much. I mean if you consider the source, not in your industry, etc., who cares what she thinks? [/quote]

Op here. You posted this exact same response twice. I’m not necessarily convinced her remarks were well meaning.

I have not yet decided what comes next.[/quote]

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