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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My online dating cycle goes exactly like this:
Swipe through 100+ guys who liked me. Match with about 25 of them. Respond to about 10 of them. ... Go on dates with 3.

Get disillusioned with online dating and give up. Two weeks later, repeat the process.

consider men into their 50s, divorced with children, without college degrees, and [don't care] about height and ... race.
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This pattern reflects lack of maturity, awareness, and control.  If you match with 25 men, you cannot go on 25 dates.  So you ignore 15 of them, and then go on the first 3 dates that ask.  These are inconvenient, bad, and lack connection.  Assuming this cycle takes one month, you have swipe through 1200+ men, matched with 300, responded to 120, and gone on 36 dates.

You don't know what you want.  You swipe on 25%, but most women swipe right on less than 10%.  Then you accumulate too many matches and randomly ignore 60%!  Be more selective and swipe right on only 10% with better matches on age, education, and other commonalities.  Then respond to all, have higher quality conversations, and go on better, convenient dates.  Don't drive an hour just because a random guys asks you first.

This numbers game sucks. You just pile up mediocre matches with poor screening and waste everybody's time, without investing in the interactions. You attract men who also swipe on hundreds of women. Before you go on a date, you should know why you like him, why he likes you, and what makes you compatible.  Instead of 3 crummy random dates in two weeks followed by 2 weeks of nothing, you need to choose a steady selective filter of 2-3 dates per month.

Your system:  Swipe on 100 men (in two weeks) and go on 3 random dates with the best 25%.

My system:  Swipe on 100-200 men (in four weeks), accept 10%, and go on the 2 best dates for attractiveness, compatibility, and mutual interest.

Put yourself on a Tinder diet! Make only 10 right swipes per week. Then maintain conversations to get the best 1 date out of those 10, in the same week or the next week.[/quote]

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