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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you saying you’d be happy to provide full time day care following all the parenting requirements your daughter and son in law have if they moved near you? You’d give only the foods they approve, take the kid to all the activities they want, follow their screen limits, toy rules, etc? [/quote]

Are you kidding, of course I would happily provide any day care duties. Just as my parents and my husband’s parents were always nearby and there for me when our children were growing up. It’s not just day care or providing a helping hand, it’s proximity to be there and watch them grow up. It’s painful to be so far away and know strangers are raising a grandchild. I keep using “strangers” because that is what is happening. I am not anti day care, I am underscoring how un-well “marrying well” turned out to be.

Another user asked why don’t we move near them: Because they are fairly rootless workaholics and go where their careers take them. They will likely bounce around and job hop for the next 30 years.[/quote]

This has nothing to do with marrying. She is your only daugher who talks to you daily yet she chose to move away and have a family far away. Prioritizing career over closeness to her family. Its a choice. Something in your parenting may have contributed to this. I am an only child/daughter. I have a non easy relationship with my mother and certainly did not snd do not talk to her everyday. But we live 20 min apart and she sees the grandkids weekly and adores them and i am happy to give my kids the gift of time with a loving grandparent. If we moved to CA, my parents would pick up and move to within an hour of us, no question. And i had nannies and daycare for my kids as i wouldn't want my parents to provide any official childcare. Too complicated. [/quote]

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