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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Teach her to be kind[/quote]

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Does being reciprocal mean align with your family's values?

I would invite her, because those are MY values, which are not dependent on others' behaviors. I would also not hesitate to correct her misbehavior if I see it.[/quote]

My values are kindness, unless it means putting my child in danger or in a situation that will be hurtful to her. So, I don’t care if another kid feels bad for being left out after doing mean things. I wouldn’t make my daughter sacrifice her comfort and safety and happiness on her day for that. I would also explain To my daughter that if she may not be invited to that girls party which it sounds like she wouldn’t mind.

Actions have consequences. And that girl may need to learn the hard way[/quote]

OMG!  Your daughter feels unsafe by a child making snarky remarks and throwing her eraser away.  You are totally raising a snowflake and I feel sorry for her.  As for the “bully” she will learn in middle school either way when the groups get smaller and more intimate.  Until then does she really need you, the adult, teaching her a lesson of exclusion?[/quote]

This kind of purposeful exaggeration does not make your point at all. OMG. [/quote]

My point is your responsibility is to teach your daughter lessons, not other children.  If you value kindness, teach that.  If you don’t want your daughter to be bullied, teach her how not to be bullied.  Excluding other kids doesn’t teach the lesson you think it does.  If you still do not understand this, I can explain it to you, but not understand it FOR you - it would be a lost cause.[/quote]

There’s a lot of things I teach her including self respect and no self respecting human should ever feel obligated to be around a person that they don’t want to be in a private situation. So, nope not mean or teaching my daughter to be mean, teaching self respect, explaining consequences by what may happen if she does/doesn’t extend an invite, and thinking through the situation both emotionally and critically. That is, what is the root of the nature of the behavior, how does it affect her, and the affect of her actions on other people.

That process may still result in a non-invitation and that’s ok. [/quote]

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