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[quote=Anonymous]Look, I was a straight-A student but after I graduated high school, I was going to have to pay rent if I lived at home.

But your son isn't doing well at home or school.

I'd lay out clear expectations and consequences in a written document and have him sign a 'contract' with you. He is clearly intelligent, so approach him like an adult. (I mean, you're lawyers, so this should be pretty easy :))

'Option A: In the next 6 months, if you (take classes and maintain a passing average), we will let you stay in our home and on our health insurance provided you are responsible for the following: (list chores). You must attend at least 2 sessions a month with a psychiatrist. If you do not maintain your grades or your household responsibilities, or you are verbally or physically abusive to any family member, you will be given a 30 day notice to move out.'

'Option B: If you choose to work and not complete your degree, you will have to move out by (provide date). You will be given a one-time stipend of $5000 for downpayment on an apt, furniture, etc. No additional money will be given to you and we will not cosign any loans or credit card applications. You will be allowed to remain on our health insurance as long as you are not convicted of a crime.'

You get the idea. Don't get personal or respond if he gets angry. Definitely engage in negotiations if he takes it seriously and wants you to consider a slight change to an arrangement. If he refuses to sign and agree on terms, then he has to move out by X date.

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