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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The second your exclude her and ONLY her, your daughter has become just as mean as she is. Do with that info what you will. [/quote]

It is not mean to protect yourself from a bully. No one is saying these girls will come to school Monday with matching shirts or bracelets to flaunt it.

Imagine there is a group of women in your neighborhood who get together regularly and one woman routinely insults other women’s home decor, asks about their weight, points out when people’s hair is overdue for a color appointment, sneers at the food served, etc. When it is your turn to host, do you invite her? I would not. [/quote]

I would because guess what, they WON’T COME! They don’t want to go to the party of the girl they don’t like but when you invite her and refuse to stoop to her mean level, you are being aligned with your values. She’s never showing up. You invite her anyway because then you are always the bigger person, the blameless one. Ask me how I know. [/quote]

Who cares about blamelessness in this instance? Are you Amish, in fear of a shunning by the elders? So odd.[/quote]

I agree with PP and I’m atheist.  Go figure!  I’m not worried about elders or anything like that but I do have a keen sense of right and wrong.[/quote]

Not following this logic. Is it right or wrong to invite someone who has been a jerk to you and may potentially cause problems at your party by turning the other girls against you, being rude, and making the party unpleasant? Because I've seen that happen. Invited the mean girl, so as not to exclude, and she caused problems, started fights, made up some lie that we didn't let her do the craft (she just didn't like how hers turned out) and called her mom to pick her up early and left without saying goodbye. Not sure why that was the "right" thing to do. Should never have invited her at all. That was the take away. Don't be so sure this type of kid won't even come.[/quote]

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