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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For my ILs brown liquor is definitely part of it, but it’s really about marking the beginning of the evening by coming together and sinking down into a cozy living or family room and just talking a bit with each other. Then we’ll head to the table for dinner, and then back to the sofas after dinner to keep the conversation going. They’re very social. I think it’s a wonderful routine.[/quote]

Why does alcohol need to be a part of that routine? My sister and her husband do not drink, and they have nice ways of transitioning from one part of the day to the other, including the transition into dinner time/evening. I don’t understand why “brown liquor” must factor in for there to be “coming together and sinking down into a cozy living or family room.”
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If you don't want to drink, don't. Nobody is forcing you. And frankly, nobody wants to hear you declare you don't drink. You teetotalers can never keep it to yourself, can you. It's as if you secretly think it makes you look interesting or like you have *so* much self control and discipline or something. Nobody cares! If grandpa and some in-laws are over and want to drink & socialize at 5pm on a Wednesday, who cares? You probably see then once a year. Go back to Wheel of Fortune and Jeopardy or scrolling DCUM routine after they leave.[/quote]

Oooh, how sensitive. I never said I didn’t drink. I said my sister does’t drink. I am not a “teetotaler,” but my point stands that it’s weird that a lot of people (ahem, you) think a drink signals the end of the day or whatever. It’s weird that you need it and can’t relax or socialize without it. Some of us just enjoy the occasional drink without making such a big, ritualized deal about it.[/quote]

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