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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Golden child has multiple DUIs (that were never his fault, according to my mother), a dead-end job, a failed marriage, a kid he hardly sees (again, not his fault according to mom), and he lives in a garage apartment at my parent's house.

I'm the scapegoat & I'm thriving. I'm successful in my personal and professional life and I'm very happy.

I keep the relationship with my parents and sibling at a solid B+ status by having strict boundaries for myself. I never stay at my parents house when I visit with my family - we always do a hotel or airbnb. I never book a trip for longer than 5 days when visiting. I don't concern myself with my sibling's drama. I used to be involved when he was having financial and legal troubles, but it caused too much stress for me. Therapy taught me that I don't love someone less just because I don't make myself available to them 100% of the time. Also, learning that you can love someone but hate them at the same time and that's ok was a big thing for me. [/quote]

Why go through all the effort for a fake relationship as you will never be as good as your brother in your parents eyes (even though we know that's NOT the case). Why continue with this charade? I don't get the point. [/quote]

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