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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh no, your SIL is widowed, or divorced? Or your brother is a deaf, mute, blind quadriplegic who can’t communicate in any way?

OH WAIT. Your brother is also equally responsible for this decision. And yet you only blame the woman, you sexist jerk.[/quote]

Just because she strongarmed her husband into agreeing with her doesn't mean she doesn't get the lion's share of the blame. SIL can't have it both ways - getting what she wants (Christmas Eve and Day with her family, not having to see DH's family on Christmas at all) AND also getting to play "this was our joint decision, teeheehee."

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First of all, this isn't what OP describes. She says they are going to travel on the holidays, so presumably not see either family.  Which is it? They are traveling and therefore not seeing either family, or they are seeing her family and just skipping out on DH's family Christmas? Is her family local or far away?

But second, even if what you describe is accurate, there is absolutely no reason to assume her husband is not fully on board with the plan. Why would he be "strong-armed" by his wife? If they are doing this, it's a joint choice and he's agreeing to it. If she was forcing him, he could divorce her and then he could spend every Christmas with his family and his kids would be required to spend half of them there. This is a choice he's making as much as she is.

And given OP's comments in this thread, I can see why. I also would not want to spend time with a sister/SIL who acted this way.[/quote]

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