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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband and I naively dilly dallied around. Ended up having two kids during my late 30s, but the stats on infertility and birth defects that were quoted to us were sobering. So, despite everything working out fine, we never would have waited that long had we been more aware. We felt pretty naive about our lack of awareness, so, as other posters have noted, it is pretty easy to be unaware.  I almost think more so than in the past when there was less of an ability to intervene.  [/quote]

Would you have appreciated a relative asking intrusive questions about your fertility during a holiday?[/quote]

I honestly don’t know.  It’s just the risks are real and someone close to me taking the time to really discuss it versus the occasional veiled comments people made could have been helpful. It’s hard to recreate the past, but I do distinctly remember telling a doctor that age cut offs were “arbitrary” and him giving me a much more clear-headed picture of infertility, miscarriages, and birth defects that come with maternal and paternal age and feeling shocked and unprepared.  I was already pregnant with my first but went on to have a miscarriage with another pregnancy, and I recall thinking that I wished I had known more.  But, I recognize that it is a difficult topic.

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