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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No judgment please, so step aside Gen X.

Elder millennial here who was sold (literally) the American dream. You have no other choice but to go to college and you will take out exorbitant loans. Marry in the Midwest by mid-20s. 3 kids by early 30s. On the back of highly taxed retirement withdrawal, somehow put a down payment on a decent home and now house and student loan poor. No chance for college savings for kids.

Add unhappy in marriage, blaming one another for ending up in *this* place. From coming to age in the era of 9/11, graduating college in an economic recession, attempting hope in Obama era to be shattered with Trump. Trying to raise a young family and being slammed with a pandemic. Everything has been terrible, silver lining coming only in the love I have for my kids. Dark cloud over everything post-Nintendo in the basement with my siblings - 1995.

Will a divorce be the final straw? Are elder millennials f**ked forever or am I the special kind that was hit with it all?[/quote]

You made bad choice after bad choice.

I went to a state school. 1 kid, in my late 30s. Starter home at 30 that we stayed in until I was 45.

Did you never read a book of a newspaper growing up? It was clear to me from the time I was in junior high that having kids was incredibly expensive and made you terribly vulnerable. And having multiple kids stretches people very thin.

Kids are the ultimate indulgence. Don't have any until you have money in the bank and a rock solid marriage.

Your own choices led you to this place. If you were smart you would figure out how to be back on the team with your DH to tackle some of these issues.

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I agree with the bit about knowing kids are extremely expensive. And please don’t act as if it is the fault of the Midwest.  I grew up there and don’t know a single person who had three kids.  Yes, some of us grew up in families of three or more, but no one thought that was feasible. Also, people got married in a range of ages.  [/quote]

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