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[quote=Anonymous]Stop. You baited her, deliberately. Why would you arrange a date on what appears to be your time with your kids (necessitating a babysitter), and why on *Earth* would you expect her to babysit while you were on a date?

You are perfectly entitled to date, but common courtesy (and good parenting) dictates that you do it mostly during your non-child custody hours until you have dated someone long enough that you are serious with someone who you might want to marry.

Until then, if you are asking for custody scheduled changes because you have a "right of first refusal" arrangement, just say that you have an event and are offering her the time first per agreement and could she please let you know by X if you have to arrange a babysitter instead. If she asks what you're doing don't lie. Just say that what you're doing is irrelevant.

If you don't have a right of first refusal agreement, just arrange a babysitter. You wife is not obligated to watch the kids on your time.

Be careful about arranging too many babysitters during your custody time - the kids are with you to spend time with you, not a babysitter. If it becomes clear that you are regularly hiring a babysitter beyond that required to maintain your employment, your former spouse would be entirely justified in asking for a change in the custody schedule if she can show that you are not spending your custody time with the kids.

You are entitled to see people with your kids - but it's poor parenting to date in their presence or to bring a succession of sjort term relationships into your relationship with your kids. [/quote]

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