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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here is the situation:  I worked at a large law firm.  I had a relationship with a partner that went beyond professional.  I felt I was not in a position to say no, and I met for dates over several months.  I agreed to an out-of-court settlement with the Law Firm.  My partner and I no longer work there.  My H knew nothing about any of it, as it all occurred while he was on extended TDY.   He found the settlement documents on our shared household computer.  H said he is more upset about my hiding the whole settlement than the fact that I might have had an affair.  He says if I was indeed sexually abused at work, why wouldn't I tell him, and further that I hid the settlement from him is a breach of trust that cannot be repaired.

I have always felt with his constant travel that H is never there to take care of me.  Now, I need him when I have a back injury and he won't help. [/quote]

He’s right. [/quote]

I have to agree 💯% w/your hubby on this situation OP.

I do not see why you felt as if you could not tell this partner NO if everything you were doing was above board.

Also, it would have been a wise idea to disclose to your husband exactly what occurred.
The fact that you were hiding it speaks volumes that you did something wrong.

If I were your husband & I found out something like this, that you were keeping this huge secret from me, etc., then I would move out too.
You had no right to not tell your husband what happened.
As your spouse, he had every right to know about this.

He is now angry & justifiably so.
I am not surprised that he refuses to help you.

Maybe you should take his advice + call your AP.
Though bad karma has already landed on your lap.

When you truly need someone > no one is there for you anymore.

Guess that is the way the proverbial cookie crumbles…..[/quote]

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