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[quote=Anonymous]OP i hear this over and over. At the end of the day men deeply believe that this is women’s work. They might not verbalize it but they don’t feel bad when they fail to do these things because at the end of the day they view anything they do as a bonus and going above and beyond. So many men were raised to believe that all they have to do is have a job and not be abusive. So they think they deserve adoration for anything more regardless of whether you work or whatever.

I don’t know why it’s so crazy to flip your thinking to oh there are these things that really have to happen (and I would think doctors appointments and paying bills would be relatively uncontroversial) and I should do half. But apparently it just doesn’t happen.

Do the important stuff yourself. Put the optional stuff on him. I also tried to put my DH in charge of the well visit (both my kids see specialists so this felt relatively low importance compared to some other appointments) and he didn’t and didn’t and didn’t until I did it. And now our pediatrician won’t let us get back on schedule so every year my oldest has their physical multiple months late. I have to do other vaccines at separate appointments. I am so frustrated every time I think about it. It just wasn’t important enough for him to spend the 10 minutes to make the call. I don’t know. It’s frustrating.[/quote]

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