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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As an adult, I think I’d be upset if my parents had let me become overweight and not tried to help or do anything about it. Sort of how I did NOT want braces as a kid but my parents made me…I’m certainly glad they did now. Same for vaccinations, riding me about my grades, and other things to keep me healthy and on the right track.

Your DH may not be going about it the right way, but it’s better than doing nothing. She is his daughter and he is concerned about her health. He loves her and wants what is best for her, I’m sure. Counseling or a visit to a dietician would help maybe? [/quote]

You "modeling" and stocking the house with cakes and large quantities of ice cream is a very mixed message and is clearly not working, OP. Your DC does not care what you eat and may have a "more for me!" mentality.

Your contempt for your DH is also unhealthy, both for your marriage and for the home you are providing DC. Since he is overweight, he cannot be concerned about DC's health? What?!!! If you suffered from depression would your concerns about a suicidal child be invalidated?

You need therapy individually and as a couple, not to continue a power struggle over DC's eating or triangulate in a 3rd party so you "win" but to understand how unhealthy your framing of situations is and to move your marital dynamic in a more + direction. You are so big on "modeling" after all, what lessons do you think DC is drawing from your marriage that has made their weight the "identified problem" for the dysfunction parental relationship?[/quote]

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