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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why can’t your spouse tell your overweight teen to not have a second slice of cake?[/quote]

This is one of the reasons why we have so much of an obesity issue in this country IMHO. Correction, advice, or setting boundaries isn’t shaming.

My tweens/teen are not overweight and I still tell them such things…I’m not going to let them sit and gorge on multiple slices of cake or eat sugary junk before dinner etc- I’ll at least say something. “Heeeey put that away! Dinner will be ready in 45min. If you are really that hungry and can’t wait, grab a piece of fruit” Isn’t that just normal parenting? [/quote]

[b]Yes, teaching portion control is normal parenting. [/b]And the proof is in the outcome, if the child is overweight or obese, changes need to be made re: what is being eaten, how active the family is, how much time is spent on screens, if sleep is adequate, etc.

OP has made feeding junk to a fat kid a power struggle with her spouse. The stress of living in a home with conflict could even be a driver of emotional eating.

Is the teen in question a boy or girl? Do they play sports? How active is the family?

OP, modeling healthy emotional intelligence is also important so teen does not eat to "stuff" feelings. You really need to work on your relationship with your spouse to provide a healthy environment. You seem very controlling and to have a strong need to be "right" even about something like a fat child, which NO ONE thinks is a good thing. The cakes and big bowls of ice cream are drivers far more than DH's words re: moderation. That is not "healthy grow" food. Is continuing to buy that stuff some sort of way to needle him, the well being of your child be damned? [/quote]

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