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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My teen is overweight.

My spouse (who is also overweight) is not dealing with it well; makes frequent remarks about what teen is eating, vilifies sweets, criticizes kid for eating too much sugar, and on and on.

I’ve talked to my spouse about it on numerous occasions and he will. Not. Stop. This has been going on for years and I am losing it.

Please recommend to me some kind of professional that we can go to for counseling so that I can get us on the same page about how to respond to different scenarios, like if my child is eating a large amount of ice cream or something like that.

What I want to do is keep my mouth shut and model healthy eating. I don’t see why that should be so hard but apparently my spouse is not able to do it and I am really becoming very angry and sad and at a loss.[/quote]

OP, are they overweight or obese by BMI?

Why do you think your approach is better/likely to be more effective? Why are you not concerned about the health risks for DC?

Your child's health has become a power struggle in your marriage and you are so concerned with being self righteous that you are not teaching your child how to effectively manage weight/health in a body, like DH's prone to be heavier. Lifestyle is key. That is NOT eating big bowls of ice cream. Why are you so willing to doom DC to a lifetime of weight struggles (more difficulty with self esteem, romantic relationships, likely to be paid less, etc., not to mention risks of health problems that will shorten life)? Why is feeding your fat child sugar some kind of "win" for you vs. your fat spouse? The proof is in the outcome. If you were providing a healthy eating environment, not one full of sugar, and active as a family, your child would be in a healthy sized body.

Perhaps both should try Ozempic. [/quote]

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