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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]IME, a big part of the pain was that my husband had previously been an honest, compassionate, moral person who cared about my wellbeing. Of course it had occurred to me that he could stray, but it had never occurred to me that he would be completely unrepentant when caught. He’d always been so responsible, dependable and conscientious that it shocked me to my core when he checked out of not just our marriage, but parenthood as well, because (in his own words) his life wasn’t fun anymore.

You no longer know what’s real and what isn’t when the person you’ve been sleeping next to for 20+ years has become unrecognizable and unknowable in a relatively short time. I’ve posted here before that had he not happened to have had a clear brain scan around this time, I would seriously have thought he had a brain tumor. It’s not that my self worth was dependent on my relationship with him; it’s that it’s psychologically damaging to have someone that close to you unveiled as a total fraud.[/quote]

Yes, this and prior PP nailed it.  It's disconcerting to feel like you maybe never knew the person you thought you knew best.  Everything is suspect,  especially your own judgment. [/quote]

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